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Finding the Source: Why Healing Requires Digging Deep

About two years ago, I found out that I had scoliosis.

It came as a shock to me, because I had never had any back problems before. In fact, up until the moment of my diagnosis, I didn’t think I had any back problems, period.


After the birth of my second child, I began to have severe pain in the front of my pubic bone any time I laid down for longer than 3 hours. It got to the point where my newborn was sleeping more at night than I was. I had to get up around 1 or 2am every night just to walk around the house and alleviate the pain. Not good.

My quality of life had diminished to the point where something had to be done. I saw several different types of specialists–and while each one could diagnose a part of the problem, nobody could diagnose the source. And because we couldn’t diagnose the source, all of the treatment plans were only helping slightly.

Finally, a friend recommended that I go to see her chiropractor. Within a week, I was in my new chiropractor’s office, staring at an x-ray of a spine that looked like a long, lean letter “C”–the kind my four-year-old might draw. Scoliosis.

My questions flooded out. How could I have scoliosis? I was checked as a child and never had any problems. What do we do now? And what does this have to do with my pubic bone pain and whether or not I will ever sleep for longer than 3 hours at a time again? 


I soon learned that the pubic bone pain was actually being caused by a twisted hip bone. The twisted hip bone was being pulled out of place by my curved back. And because of this, one of my legs was also being pulled higher than the other, causing me to have one slightly longer leg–which affected my stride, my posture, and everything else.

I still didn’t understand how I could have gotten scoliosis, though. We hypothesized that perhaps one of the causes was an ACL tear in my right knee that I had experienced when I was 14; the injury went misdiagnosed for 11 years, during which time I had deeply favored my left leg to compensate for the injury. While she couldn’t guarantee anything, she wondered if perhaps my intensely misaligned gait had slowly caused a spine curvature over time.

The fact that a knee injury from 1994 could have led to intense pubic pain in 2013 kind of blew my mind. Everything really is connected.


We began an intense routine of traction, twice-weekly adjustments, and adding a lift into my shoe to change my gait.

And finally, finally…my pain began to diminish and eventually disappear. Because we had found the source, we were able to figure out an effective way to deal with it.

Until you find the source of an issue, you’ll always have aspects of yourself that are affected. Treating a symptom only tackles one angle.

Our bodies, minds, and hearts are all surprisingly similar in this way. Sometimes we experience emotional wounds that just don’t seem to want to heal. And no matter how much we talk about it, journal about it, pray about it, or think about it, it doesn’t seem to get better.

That’s usually a sign that the wound actually isn’t the root of the problem.

Sometimes the source is an obvious connection. Other times, not so much. It might take a bit of patience to figure out where the pain is really coming from. But once you do, you have a much, much better chance of figuring out what to do about it.

And that old wound you think probably doesn’t have anything to do with the new one? It might be a good idea to take a look at it.

Because everything is connected. And once we figure that out, finding healing can be a much, much easier process.

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